Sunday, November 18, 2007

The Fight for Natural Beauty

The Axe Effect: the official website. It says everything about the condition of our world and how it sees beauty. “Click here to see nice girls turn naughty.” “Click here to see the world’s DIRTIEST film – so dirty you’ll beg for a shower.” These words flash across the screen, accompanied by images that I’d rather not describe. It is saddening to see how the world’s perspective of beauty has been distorted and destroyed throughout the centuries, degrading women to objects, not people.

Botox, liposuction, cosmetic surgery, makeup, pedicures, manicures, facials, body lotion, perfume, moisturizers, cosmetic Bariatric surgery, diet-pills and more…these are things that are pushed towards women in today’s world. Advertisers tell us that we’re not pretty enough as we are; they tell us that we need all this to make ourselves “truly beautiful.” They tell us to forget the idea of “natural beauty” and try to persuade us that we need all these objects, procedures and more to be attractive and to get the “hot guy.”

It isn’t just things we can pay for, though. In today’s culture, the music and lyrics that blare out from the radio also encourage us to use our bodies – and not our personalities – to catch a man. “Slow bangin shorty like a belly dancer with it. Smell good, pretty skin, so gangsta with it.” Those are some of the opening lines to the song “Don’t Cha” as rapped by Busta Rhymes. Right after that comes the Pussycat Dolls, who put out the song. One of the things they say is, “Don't cha wish your girlfriend was raw like me? Don't cha wish your girlfriend was fun like me?” The message being portrayed by this group of women is quite clear: be hot, be raw, be flirtatious, and you’ll get the guy you want.

It’s not just singing groups, however. Women also have to deal with the unrealistic expectations of men. I recently asked a young man who I know who he would choose out of two of my friends: my drop-dead gorgeous friend, or my simple, yet pretty friend. It was automatically the former. He didn’t even need to think. Men want the gorgeous girl by their side.

Now, there are the notable exceptions to the rule, so please don’t think that I’m a ranting, raving feminist who thinks all men should be shot. I have been blessed with many guy friends who are able to see past what the world says is “real beauty” and can see the natural beauty. To be told that I am beautiful by one of them means a thousand times more then if I were wearing makeup, and then told I was beautiful. I know that they mean what they say, and that I didn’t need to put on a show to get their praise.

One man I am thankful for is my father, who shows me everyday that there are men in this world who are worth looking up to. When he met my mother, she didn’t wear makeup, yet he says that he fell in love with her at first sight, despite the three or four scarves she had on, the baggy overalls, and sweatshirt she was wearing. Later on, when he wasn’t with her, his friends would tell my mom that he wouldn’t even look at other women. He saw my mom as she was, and not as an object that should be won over, slept with, and then dumped. This is, for me, an example of a “real man.”
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That's the beginning to a paper I'm writing for my literature class. I'll post the entire thing here once I'm done.

Your comments on it would be greatly appreciated.

6 comments:

Lindsay said...

first off...you are a raving femenist

but i like this paper. too often do i know what you are talking about.

Anonymous said...

I definitely would like to add that there are awesome guys that can see beyond the surface, regardless of what the media throws at them. I happened to marry one of them. :) And I know I'm loved for being me, not because of multiple beauty treatments, although for some bizarre reason he thinks I'm beautiful anyway.

Lindsay said...

Well...today, my friend decided to starve herself. So I got really mad and ended up writing a smiliar paper to this one. I call it, "The Emaciation Proclamation". It's acutally quite interesting to think about why society desires that we fix ourselves as women.

All's well, decided to take no action. "Brycen" and "Jon"- still no update on that or Princeton. For more details and stuff...well, you know.

MIKE LOWELL SIGNS. too bad ive got to enjoy this alone =D

bombingpeacefuckingvirginity said...

I am looking forward to reading this paper! I, unlike you, have not been blessed with numerous male "look deeper then covered-up pores" friends. In fact, I have a couple male friends who resent me for wearing make-up, which makes me mad, I mean, after all, it is /my/ face, isn't it?

It is... I think... o.O

Anywhooo... Your paper is so much deeper then mine- (The US should allow gay men to donate blood)...
<3<3<3

Anonymous said...

"Like David, I wanna be a man after God’s own heart. And I’m not there yet, but I’m past the start. And when people talk, I try to listen. A spirit of compassion, that’s my vision. Surely I am a manly man. I want to be loved and have love and give love.

And not just that romantic kind either. Although I am looking for that beauty. Not helpless, but wants to be rescued. The damsel in distress, man, woman, myth, true. I will fight for her, climb the highest tower for her, love her, share with her, delight in her, be her warrior, her protector. She will be my crown and I will be hers. My masculinity will be passed down and affirmed to my sons. And each of my daughters will know they are lovely, and deserving of authentic romance.

Society tells me all day long that I’ve defined manhood completely wrong. But you ask any honest man, and he will agree. You ask any honest woman, and she too will see, that I am a manly man."

Adderly said...

That is completely true. So much of our culture is focused on appearances, instead of personality. So many mean, bitchy girls get guys because they are 'beautiful.' We seriously need to redefine what beauty is in our culture before everyone turns into mannequins--filled with plastic and molded into the 'perfect' shape. And just because you're speaking of this issue of physical beauty does not necessarily mean that you have feminist leanings because it is true for the opposite sex as well. Men are also being pressured into getting the perfect body, and also end up getting plastic surgery and take diet pills, etc.